Jews from across the Southwest will gather in the Valley on Oct. 11-12 for “Sacred Waters,” a program sponsored by the Union for Reform Judaism (URJ), to explore the role of water in Jewish tradition and ritual, as well as the relationship Jews have to water in the Southwest and, geopolitically, in the Middle East.“Sacred Waters” will begin at 7 p.m. Oct. 11, with a Havdalah service, marking the end of the Sabbath, followed by a performance of “The Mikveh Monologues” and a dessert reception at Temple Chai, 4645 E. Marilyn Road, Phoenix. The play, by Janet Buchwald and the weekend’s special guest, author Anita Diamant, is based on interviews with men, women and children who marked a life transition by immersing in a mikveh, a Jewish ritual bath.Diamant, the author of 11 books — with a 12th on the way, is the keynote speaker for a Day of Learning on Sunday, Oct. 12, at Congregation Beth Israel, 10460 N. 56th St., Scottsdale. Diamant is well-known for her novels such as “The Red Tent” and nonfiction books such as “Living a Jewish Life,” as well as many articles for magazines such as Real Simple and Parenting. As the founding president of Mayyim Hayyim Living Waters Community Mikveh in the Boston metropolitan area, she is ideally suited to discuss the ancient ritual of immersion in “living waters” and contemporary use of the ritual as a means of spiritual renewal. As the home of the Stein Family Community Mikveh, the only Reform community mikveh in Arizona, Congregation Beth Israel is ideally suited to host the day of learning.The program will also include speakers from Reform Jewish leadership and clergy, as well as the education and business worlds. The Day of Learning begins with registration at 8 a.m., and the program will run from 8:45 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.Registration is now open for “Sacred Waters,” the first lay-led URJ community event convened in the Southwest. It is open to anyone interested in the Jewish community. Cost to attend is $55 for the full program, $36 for the Saturday program only, or $30 for the Sunday program only.For more details or to register, visit www.urj.org/west/sacredwaters.
Janet Hagberg was the first person who defined the experience for me. I had lived through it, but I didn’t know what to call it. In a book entitled, “The Critical Journey,” Janet called the experience, simply, “The Wall.” My summary goes like this. Many people begin their walk of faith, and everything goes as they expected. Out of genuine conviction, they attend church, learn from the Scriptures, volunteer, serve, give, and become “productive, committed, faithful, Christians” (whatever that exactly means, who knows?). But somewhere along the way things go wrong. Terribly wrong.The orderly, stalwart faith that used to “work” for these true believers becomes a muddled mess. Yes, they once taught Sunday school, sang in the choir, chaperoned the youth group, chaired the Stewardship Committee, and had bullet-proof answers to all questions of faith. But then, all at once or over an extension of time, their faith splintered into a million tiny pieces.The woman, who was taught that living a godly life would protect her marriage, goes through a divorce. The church to which a pastor gave his best years, his heart and soul, fires him because of some petty transgression or because he didn’t go visit a prominent church member who was in the hospital with the gout. A child falls deathly ill and heaven seems silent as a stone, all while the godly parents pray for a miracle. A husband/father dies, leaving behind a young wife and even younger children. An accident leaves the once healthy college student broken and mutilated, physically and spiritually.The circumstances come in variegated form, but the impact is the same. It is more than a crisis of faith, more than theological bump in the road; these are an unraveling that robs people of their confidence and comfort. The once unshakable believer descends downward into the blackness of doubt, what Saint John of the Cross called “the Dark Night of the Soul.” Adding insult to injury, sometimes the only thing the church or we ministerial types can say in those moments is, “Why don’t you pray more? Just believe. Let go and let God. Confess your sin. Try harder.” Not only is this insensitive, asinine advice, it simply won’t work. Those who have hit “The Wall” feel so lost and adrift, so dismantled at their very core, that to keep doing what they were doing – only with more enthusiastic dedication – is impossible.Like a bug striking a windshield, a sledgehammer falling on clods of dirt, or a ball sent through a bay window, “The Wall” breaks faith and people apart. I wish it were different. I wish such pain could be avoided. I wish there was a way to get over, under, or around these types of experiences, but if you live long enough, you will feel your faith being smashed and shattered. The only question left is, “What will come out of the splintered and scattered pieces?”Here is your choice: You can harden your heart and sweep the shards of your faith into the dustpan, giving up on faith and God completely; or you can pick up the broken pieces, with bloody hands and heart, and reassemble faith on the other side of doubt.